Why Change is So Hard?

As a human we don’t live in an empty space…We live in our environment. Unless you are an exceptional human being, most people tend to conform with their environment. It does not mean that we are happy with it. Most of us just don’t wanna face the hardship of changing. We fear the unknown. Its a natural trait.

Last year I had an opportunity to teach Change Management course. One of the book that I used is  Cadle and Yates. One of the things that they proposed is a Change Equation that goes as follow:

D x V x F must be greater than R

This equation means that for a change to happen the Dissatisfaction (D) of current situation times the Vision of what could happen (V) times the achievable First Step (F) must be greater than the Resistance to Change.

Lets take an example. Say that you are unhappy with your current job. But, you would not change to another job if the level of your dissatisfaction of your current situation is great enough, or if you don’t have ideas whether other jobs would be better (more beneficial) for you, or if you do not think that the first steps on the way to get the new job is easy enough.

Now, that is only you against yourself. Consider if the change involve several people, an entire organization or even an entire country. We can now see, why Change in a certain environment would be difficult. Some people may be dissatisfied with the current situation, but then again some might not. Some may have different visions. Finally, some may willing to go the extra miles to get to their vision. Some may not.

But should we do nothing?

One of my lecturer once said, you probably cannot build an entire wall by yourself. But you can certainly help by putting one brick.

I guess, if we cannot change others, at least we can change ourselves. For the better of course.

Stay positive!

 

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Turning 39!

Yup, i am now just one year shy from the next milestone in my life.

I am grateful with all that I have so far.

In a few more weeks I will also enter the next chapter in my life. Really wish that I can be a better person day by day!

Oh, it happens that I got invited to one of my former student’s wedding in Pandaan right on my Birthday. It was quite a drive from Surabaya. So, we decided to have a weekend getaway.

We went to Tretes and stay at Pines Garden. The hotel perched high up in the hill. The girls enjoyed swimming in the pool. Not me, too cold brrrr…Then, we enjoyed a night out at the local Chinese Restaurant. The next morning we went to Kakek Bodo waterfall which is located very close to the Hotel. The staff said it was 600m, so I thought…hmm not that far…but, the road was steep so it felt harder than I thought. Its even harder because I didnt exercise regularly. But, I managed to get to the waterfall…So, there it was, when I suddenly felt, yup, mentally I may not feel old, but my body is certainly getting older! Gotta exercise more!

My dream of a Lavender Field

Ever since high school my favorite color is Purple/Magenta/Lilac/Violet..I know that there’s a good explanation to differentiate Purple with Magenta, Lilac or Violet…but, I don’t really mind, I just love it 🙂 Every time I buy something my choice will automatically go for the purple one. First example is the background of this blog 😉

I love orchids because it has a range of purple colors. Then, when I studied in England I love to see Lavender, not only because of the color but also because it distinct smell.

Yesterday as I sat down, my mind start to wonder…Wouldn’t be really nice to have a field or a garden full of flower. Especially Lavender. So I started to Googled for “Lavender Field”…I was so amazed with the lovely pictures…but not all of them are free for use.

I found this one, from wikimedia. Simply stunning. Somehow I felt so peaceful looking at it.Thank you to Mr. Andy Blind for putting this lovely picture 🙂

I put it here and hope someday I can either visit such site or..who knows, perhaps I can own one 🙂

 

Great Words of Wisdom

The social media has brought us a lot of things…it brings us big data, sorry for the jargons :D, with all its positive and negatives. News, Gossips, humor, inspirations, you name it. Around a week a go, one of my friends shared me a very inspiring piece of conversation between Ramkrishna Paramahansa & Swami Vivekananda. I was really inspired so I thought I will put it here to constantly remind and motivate me.
Here it goes..
——————————————————————————————————————————————————1. 1. Swami Vivekananda:- I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.
Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you free.
Note to myself: be more productive and you’ll get more free time
2.Vivekananda:- Why has life become complicated now?
Ramkrishna:- Stop analyzing life.. It makes it complicated. Just live it.
Note to myself: yes, over thinking things, does make it more complicated and makes me forget to enjoy life!
3.Vivekananda:- Why are we then constantly unhappy?
Ramkrishna:- Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.
 Note to myself: worry less and be happy
4. Vivekananda:- Why do good people always suffer?
Ramkrishna:- Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer. With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.
Note to myself: shine bright like a diamond, diamond in the sky…wait that’s a song 😀 Seriously, love the “becomes better, not bitter”. Noted. Dont wanna be bitter. 
5.Vivekananda:- You mean to say such experience is useful?
Ramkrishna:- Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons .
Note to myself: Experience and learn
6.Vivekananda:- Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…
Ramkrishna:- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the way.
Note to myself: Listen to your heart, your own that is. 
7.Vivekananda:- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?
Ramkrishna:- Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.
Note to myself: So true! You may not succeed, but if you are satisfied then it’s okay? No excuses please. 8.Vivekananda:- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
Ramkrishna:- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go.Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.
Note to myself: count my blessings!
9.Vivekananda:- What surprises you about people?
Ramkrishna:- When they suffer they ask, “why me?” When they prosper, they never ask “Why me?”
Note to myself: never consider myself as a victim…
10.Vivekananda:- How can I get the best out of life?
Ramkrishna:- Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence.
Prepare for the future without fear.
Note to myself: Remember it, no regret, be confidence and pursue without fear.

 11.Vivekananda:- One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

Ramkrishna Paramhansa:- There are no unanswered prayers. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve.Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

 Note to myself: Don’t try to solve your live, just live it!